Steve

Hello moonchildren! I know this is gonna come out whiny but I just need to get this off my chest. I have a brother, lets call him Steve. Steve is very aggressive and violent. For one, he spends his day playing Minecraft instead of doing his homework and when my mother comes up into the office he closes out of the tabs hes using for Minecraft and has a tab where he does 1% of his homework on. When my mom lifts an eyebrow and asks if Steve was doing his work, he says yes, My mom looks at me and I nod yes but I look at her with my eyes saying no. If I ever tell her straight up no, he waits until mom's out of the room to hit me. You might be thinking wow she acts like a 6 year old, telling her mom everything he does, YOU DONT UNDERSTAND she wants me to tell her if he's doing his work because he is failing badly. Secondly, Steve eats SOOOOOOO much that he is way over weight and he does not care about it. I try to help him out and put healthy stuff in his food but he just gorges and gorges. Sometimes I feel like I am the big sister and he's the little brother. Last but not least he thinks of violence against me is FUNNY, he holds up a hammer in his hand as in to "throw" it at me and fake throws it if you know what i'm talking about, when I flinch he calls me a wimp and laughs. I know I said the one before that one was the last but I have one more, When I try to make a bond and tell him about my problems he says I have freaking insomnia and depression. YEAH RIGHT! He's late for school he sleeps in so late! He never looks depressed or lonely! He also said he had anorexia for 6 months! HED BE DEAD. He is also at the risk of going to military school. Just had to let it out somehow!
From Julia

Nice too meet you!!.I'M sorry about the bad patch with your brother.hope things get better for you and him.

Hey Julia, I was going to reply a lot earlier, but I had to think about what to say and then forgot and so on... xD Sorry. I still don't really know what to say, other than that it sounds to me that Steve is... um, stupid and weird. I don't know how old he is, but boys are like that for a loooong time. They may think violence is funny even after they turn 30. Boys are like children most of their lives.
But I think he has a myriad of problems, all affecting the other.
One, he's addicted to playing games. Minecraft is especially addicting, I've played it for countless of hours, but at least I can STOP when there are more important things to be done! Homework is important! Addicted, because he's hiding it. All addicts pretend not be doing whatever they're addicted to, and hide it so they can go back to their addiction when no one's around. Like chocolate addicts, they have secret stashes of chocolate so no one else can eat it.
Two, because of playing games, he doesn't notice his body. If he pays no attention to what he's eating, and doesn't exercise, of course he's overweight!
Three, I bet his weight is making him feel uncomfortable, so he resorts to bullying you. I think he doesn't even want to go to school if the other kids are teasing him of his weight.
Four, he sleeps so much because he's eating badly and not exercising. His body doesn't have enough "fuel" to make him energized to move, and to make his brain work. Or, his thyroid gland isn't working properly, or he could even be anemic.
If I were you, I'd tell my mother of what he's doing. Or rather, NOT doing. And also tell about the acts of violence, she could protect you and set the boy straight. I only hope she has the authority over him to do this, otherwise he'll just go worse. At least for a while. Like all children, he'd get used to new rules.
Homework first, THEN the games. And when eating, gaming STOPS. And maybe military school would be good for him! At least he'd learn some discipline, goddammit xD
He has no anorexia, I don't know where he might have come up with a lie like that. Not if he really is overweight, and eats all the time. It does sound like he's depressed, making up lies and living like a little piggie. Anorexia is not a thing to be joking about, it's a serious illness. He might be lying to get people to notice how bad he's feeling. Maybe go for a walk with him? Air and exercise would do him good.
Hey, get him a really strict personal trainer for his birthday :B

Wow that sounds like my brother exept the bullying and stuff. First of all I agree with Forace you should totally tell your mother as she has more control over him than you. As for the gaming I believe that until he gets some good grades and losses some weight it must stop, belete it, block or... you got the point. This is what happen to my bro too. It worked as a motivation to stuby harder and do his best in order to "win" the right to play. It maybe also possible that he is acting this way because he can affort to, he has learned that nobody is going to punish him for doing these things and so he continues acting like that. He might just need a good reminder what of will happen if he fails school like he won't get a job and live in the streets, it is important that you exaggerate things in order to scare him. And one last thing whatever you decide to do or whatever program you decide to set you must be sure that he is determined to follow it for his own good and not to make others happy as he will be slacking when you aren't there to watch him. Hope it helps

Hi Julia, excuse me so much about your brother. Maybe this isn’t nice but if your mom thought about therapy for him??? He needs so much professional help. He needs help. Someone should to show him that he is an addicted and must to change life right now. Later can to be too late. Don’t allow that he hurts you. Try with your mom do for him the best.

Hey Julia, I was going to reply a lot earlier, but I had to think about what to say and then forgot and so on... xD Sorry. I still don't really know what to say, other than that it sounds to me that Steve is... um, stupid and weird. I don't know how old he is, but boys are like that for a loooong time. They may think violence is funny even after they turn 30. Boys are like children most of their lives.
But I think he has a myriad of problems, all affecting the other.
One, he's addicted to playing games. Minecraft is especially addicting, I've played it for countless of hours, but at least I can STOP when there are more important things to be done! Homework is important! Addicted, because he's hiding it. All addicts pretend not be doing whatever they're addicted to, and hide it so they can go back to their addiction when no one's around. Like chocolate addicts, they have secret stashes of chocolate so no one else can eat it.
Two, because of playing games, he doesn't notice his body. If he pays no attention to what he's eating, and doesn't exercise, of course he's overweight!
Three, I bet his weight is making him feel uncomfortable, so he resorts to bullying you. I think he doesn't even want to go to school if the other kids are teasing him of his weight.
Four, he sleeps so much because he's eating badly and not exercising. His body doesn't have enough "fuel" to make him energized to move, and to make his brain work. Or, his thyroid gland isn't working properly, or he could even be anemic.
If I were you, I'd tell my mother of what he's doing. Or rather, NOT doing. And also tell about the acts of violence, she could protect you and set the boy straight. I only hope she has the authority over him to do this, otherwise he'll just go worse. At least for a while. Like all children, he'd get used to new rules.
Homework first, THEN the games. And when eating, gaming STOPS. And maybe military school would be good for him! At least he'd learn some discipline, goddammit xD
He has no anorexia, I don't know where he might have come up with a lie like that. Not if he really is overweight, and eats all the time. It does sound like he's depressed, making up lies and living like a little piggie. Anorexia is not a thing to be joking about, it's a serious illness. He might be lying to get people to notice how bad he's feeling. Maybe go for a walk with him? Air and exercise would do him good.
Hey, get him a really strict personal trainer for his birthday :B

I completley agree. He is caught in a vicous cycle and needs to get help. And NO ONE has the right to lay a finger on you. EVER. You to tell your Mother everything and express that you are worried about him and that you think he needs help.
I hope everything gets better and you can find the strength to do that <3

Thank you guys you have really helped me. I did tell my mom, quite long ago and she goes through it too. The sad thing is is that I was in a dark time where I stopped eating, forgot to add that. But on the bright side he is at a therapy i guess camp and getting help. I cant help but say that the 5 weeks without him has been sorta sad without him. He might of been a big dildo but at times he could be I guess...Normalish?

Very normalish It's easy to love someone and maybe hate them or dislike them at the same time.

very normal