...and I can't do anything for him

One of my best friends in the whole world, Preston, is gay... Not a problem at all! That is, until you add the fact that he's Mormon. He's a fairly happy person, but his dad is super judgemental. Not too long ago, he found out he was gay and took away his texting, facebook, email, threatened to take him out of costume design, and even took away his jeans (they were too "faggish"). Preston got over that, but then his dd started telli him ge couldn't hang out with certain people. All of his guy friends (even the straight ones), and a bunch of his girl friends, including me, were forbiden. Lately his dad lightened up on him. He let us hang out again. But on Friday we were going to hang out and I called him. He was crying and said he would call me back. About an hour later I got a call from his cell phone, but it was his dad. He tole me to not talk to Preston anymore. Then about 3 hours later Preston called me from a siblings phone. He was sobbing. He said that his dad went crazy and hit him and took away everything again. Then he told me to not call back or he wouldn't be able to see me again. He said it wasn't safe at his house, but ge was afraid to leave because of what his dd would do. The worst part of it all is that i can't help him. I can't even support him now that we aren't allowed to talk!! Gay teens are so in risk for suicide, and add on his bitchy dad, I don't know what to do.

Oh my god! That's so... I don't even have words for it! This is one of the reasons why I'm an atheist. That sucks big time. I have no idea what you could do... Other than to wait until his dad loosens his grip a bit, and be very careful not to anger him further... Or I would call the police, because his dad is denying his freedom, plus then there's the violence. And the risk of suicide.
It's completely idiotic that he won't let Preston to hang out with you, or other girls O_o I'd think they could "turn him around" :D But no, no one can force their sexuality, and should be allowed to like whatever it is they like... I'm so sorry about the situation :< I assume Preston is 14 like you? I hope he won't attempt to run away from home, he's too young. Maybe after a couple of years :/
Just wait and see how things develop... And try to find a way to talk to Preston, without the dad knowing. Let him know you support him, so he won't do anything stupid.

Yeah, well we have costume design togther, and I talk to him there. And the cops won't help. Here in Texas, parents are allowed to ddo whatever to their kids and they don't give een the tiniest shit about it. It's like, if there is a god then why would he let this happen??

A lot of bad things happen, so a lot of people wonder about that same thing: how can god let this happen? Yeah, well, since I'm an atheist, it's easy for me to say that there is no god :/
Oh yeah, cops in Texas... I saw a video today, where the police beat up a kid who had already surrendered! I wish it wasn't like that :'(
But it's good you can talk to him at least somewhere...

Yeah, but he can't open up at school like he could in private.

Oh, my God ..!
damn .. I can not believe ..! I have no words, but friend you and give all your support, it is very difficult, but it is so young and really do not want to pass something worse, ahh that vibe from your father, I'm in a situation like, but not enclose me or hit me, but delen support the need that strength is difficult to know, but may, and if even this joevn to escape and the truth known to the popes, would be much worse if you do ..!
Encourage friends, you too are strong, so you can give the same strength, you agree unfortunately many young people commit suicide for the same, so I lost a friend ...

yeah :/ i just wish that his dad would realize how terrible he's being. even preston's step mother and step brother (who don't really care for him) were yelling at his dad to stop. his dad was really insane that night. he even told preston's step mother that if she didn't go downstairs and mid her own business that he would divorce her. who does that???? and all because pretons gay? thats so stupid!!!!!

omg!!this is so terrible. he is so poor, i hope that he has strong and he can win with her dad... sofierain, try support preston.. he must know that isn't alone.. I sending my love to Preston

Yeah, I am supporting him as much as I can. I just hope that my support is enough for him

sofierain i hope also

wow!..That's very bad & sad...You know i think it's wrong how the father is acting........That's just not right. I mean the father has a right not to agree with his life-style.He should't treat his own son like that.Hope he comes around

thats horrible i just done understand why parents act this way when they find out their child is gay, you should love your kid for who you are no matter what , im glad he has a friend like you that cares, its horrible that he has to go through this, but a way to help is to just be there for him, talk to him when you can and continue to let him know you care. i really wish he could get out of that house though.

^i agree.
gay, straight, fat, slim, blonde, brunette, short, tall - it shouldn't matter. you have brought a life into this world and it is your responsibility to take care of it no matter what.

i do hope you both stay strong and fight through it. its gonna make you so much stronger in the end, but of course the journey into getting to that stage is going to be hard.

Situations like this are so heartbreaking. If his father has hit him though he really needs to tell someone that can do something about it. I realize that the cops aren't always helpful but I really think you should help him find an adult that isn't afraid of this father that is willing to stick up for him to his father. I'm assuming Preston is the same age as you so 4 more years is a long time for him to be in a violent environment, situations like this usually get worse not better. One of my friends dad didn't really approve of him being gay (he was never abusive though) so he ended up moving in with his grandma.
If your parents are ok with him being gay, then I suggest telling them about Preston's home life too. If he can't get help then the best thing would be to always be there for him and (if your parents are okay with it) have an open door policy with him (like he's always welcome to stay in your house and doesn't have to be afraid to show up at 3am on a wednesday because he is afraid of his dad) Be strong for you and your friend, and tell him to remember there's always light at the end of the tunnel

-ahem- WHAT?!?!?!
I have absolutely NO problem with any sexuality. I have a lesbian friend, and a pansexual friend.
Seriously, Preston didn't necesarrily choose to be gay. He just is. It wouldn't be fair for him to pretend otherwise. If his dad really loved him, he would accept him for who he is, not try to tell him who he can and can't be. It's Preston's choice. He's old enough to choose his own lifestyle and path.
One more point. If God hated gay, lesbian, pansexual, etc. people, would he have created them?
[sorry to get a little preachy there]

yeah, of course he's allowed over whenever, but his dad wont let him. he thinks i am a bad influence around him because i "bring the feminine side in him." it makes me so sad that he wont evenlet him have a friend.

man that makes me angry, just doesnt make any sense how his father can be so cruel

WEll i hope ur friend will be ok...Hope his dad changes his act.

what an asshole!i hope ur friends life gets better. his dad will regret the way hes treating him 1 day remembr what goes around comes around

yeah, his dad ungrounded him from most of the stuff, but he still is being mean about it.

Hey, just read your post. It been awhile since your last comment. How is Preston doing? Has he tried contacting groups like the Trevor project or RAINN for advice? I know rainn is a little far fetched, but they could counsel him if he's being abused. The thing is, this can't last forever. Either his dad will give up, or croak, or Preston will move out eventually. He just has to last a little whole longer. I feel so sorry for him. And for the record as to some other comments on here, discrimination and violence against gays isn't a "Christian" thing. Violence and discrimination is among the most UNchrist-like things a person can do. It just so happens that bad people can attempt to walk in the clothing of a dove. Anyway. Gosh. I hope he'll be alright. Keep us posted please? There has to be a relative or something he can live with.

Eh, strike the bit about Christians at the end. I think I misunderstood something in the prior comments. My bad.

That's horrible. Your supposed to love (ESPECIALLY) your own flesh and blood more than your own life itself. I hope everything turns out ok.