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Post by OwO_V on Wed Jun 08, 2011 5:13 am

well i rrly needed this place because my friend has started to hate me, well not hate me but idk its so confusing. shes going through some hard times and is dwelling in the past. she cuts and starves herself and i try to make her happy but she tells me that it makes her feel worse. it never worked and it made me sad too so i told her that i will stop trying on messages on the comp because she said it gets annoying that ppl care. i rrly do care for her and i love her. she just cant get along with me and she says that she wants to push me away. she ignores me at school and she makes me cry whenever i think of her. i just want to b happy again knowing that she is too. also she says that im not like her and i dont understand so she wont tell me everything. i thought i was her bestest friend she ever had but now it feels like i ruined her life and shes tearing me apart. i dont know what to do anymore! Crying or Very sad Crying or Very sad Crying or Very sad
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Post by OwO_V on Wed Jun 08, 2011 5:18 am

oh and how to change profile pic?
i like customizing stuff.
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Post by OwO_V on Wed Jun 08, 2011 5:21 am

nvm i figured it out
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Post by OwO_V on Wed Jun 08, 2011 5:49 am

she just told me that everything i do makes her angry but i dont know why... she told me that she never gets angry orrude at people but i make her angry and shes been rude to me. she singles me out from everyone and that makes me really really sad T^T
please someone reply, i dont know what to do at all and i need someone besides her to talk to
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Post by mimi on Wed Jun 08, 2011 6:29 am

as much as it hurts, the friendship seems to be one sided.. if she's treating you like that then the best thing to do is to let her go. you can hardly call her your 'best' friend if she's hurting you like that & if you keep trying and trying - you'll end up getting even more hurt.
it sucks bad but sometimes it is better to let go and wait until a true friend is sent your way!

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Post by OwO_V on Wed Jun 08, 2011 6:45 am

sigh... well thank you.. she did tell me that she needed to be left alone. and i am leaving for a while. i know it is the best decision but i feel that she understands me more than anyone. i just cant understand her. i just want us to at least talk for the few days ill be here until i come back. she sits at our table and she talks to my other friends but not me and it makes me feel left out because she was the only one i talked to alot. i do have another friend... but shes a bad influence yet she really understands, i feel sorry for her because she tries to fix our problems even though she has problems of her own. sigh i really dont know what to do... and my friend thats making me sad got rrly close to me during 3 days... but u see, we wear tails and i got a new one and she was sad because mine was bigger and fluffier.. im sorry, she is very complicated and hard to understand. but i understand some of her that most ppl dont. but thank you anyway, knowing that someone cares out there helps alot
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Post by Krissy on Wed Jun 08, 2011 6:50 am

sounds like shes not being a very good best friend.If this is how shes treating you.I would just let her go.

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Post by OwO_V on Wed Jun 08, 2011 6:50 pm

ill try... but im hoping the time apart will mend some of this.
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Post by Forace on Wed Jun 08, 2011 11:50 pm

That's very confusing. She should at least tell you what is wrong, so you won't have to keep asking her. No need to tell exactly what's bothering her. She's now being rude because she's annoyed by you... Could it be that she's just jealous of you, so she's ignoring you? What if you wore the old tail again, or could you help your friend get a new fluffy one as well?

Either that, or there's something more serious going on... You're teenagers, so your hormones are going (are are starting to go) wild, so she could be confused by the emotions. Some people are more sensitive than others. She should definitely stop cutting and starving herself, because she's still growing, and starving is NOT good at all! She could develop some serious health issues with that. Osteoporosis for example. Does she feel pressure about her looks? She shouldn't feel that way, she's too young :<

Or, something terrible has happened to her, and she can't talk to anyone about it. Least of all to you, because you'd get worried and probably tell some adult about it, and she does not want that...
I think that she's depressed. Cutting oneself is a clear sign of that.

So, let her be alone for a while, but keep looking after her... If she starts having more and more cuts, or if she gets alarmingly thin, tell a teacher or a doctor. Your friend might object, but it is for her own good, even if she can't see it. You're her friend, and you don't want anything bad to happen to her.

And about this friend who is bad influence... You can be with her if you want, just don't do anything stupid. Like drugs/drinking, destroying property or harming anyone or anything... I'm sure you know what I mean, so I don't really need to tell you that :)

I hope everything will work out. Try to be careful and calm :)
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Post by OwO_V on Thu Jun 09, 2011 2:38 am

thank you, she has been getting thinner, but shes been eating more than before.(still not enough though) she already goes to a counselor but he seems to be making it worse(i dont think hes professional) but right now we are talking and she is in a good mood, im not sure how long it will last but we both apologized to eachother or it might be because a classmate complimented her. and she is just very confusing but she says that i cause her grief, but i told her that she inspired me to be myself and bring out my inner weirdness and im not sure but my last day of school (tomorrow) might be a good day. still not sure if this is solved yet though. thanks anyway ^w^
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Post by wolfeh on Thu Jun 09, 2011 4:41 pm

Oy. Sorry boo. Sounds pretty bad to be in your shoes right now. Sad

I agree with the mimi. You can't force love on somebody, and shouldn't have to. Maybe she is going through something bigger than she is, obviously she is, but that's no excuse to mistreat people, least of all the people that love you.

So yeah, maybe some time apart will help. Idk if you're this way, but I am the following way. I always wind up making friends with the injured hearts and the kids that truly have disturbingly messed up pasts. & while that's great because I can be there for them, sometimes it's best to just not try to be a shoulder for or fix every injured wing you come across because that weight adds up fast. Not trying to tell you not to be there for people, just that if you're like me, and you tend to try to be there for everyone, including those who are emotionally toxic to be around and have a very "everything is terminal" attitude, maybe you should try to better safeguard yourself in the future. Again, not trying to knock being a good samaritan. Lord knows we all have needed them before in our personal low-points in life. Okay, shutting up now.

Oh and welcome to the table. ^-^
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Post by OwO_V on Fri Jun 10, 2011 8:45 am

yeah. thank u, and thank u about the welcome thing, i thought that this was the place to go. i heard about it before but i didnt really need to join. but me and my friend are great now, she was a bit upset during some times but we didnt have akward silences and today was really really fun, she even asked if i could sleepover but my mom said no. yet her asking for a sleepover means shes happy because she hates them, she sayd that she only likes sleepovers with me ^w^
thank you very much everyone. and ill try to prevent the bad stuff from happening.
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Post by Krissy on Mon Jun 13, 2011 3:08 pm

glad things r a little better

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Post by OwO_V on Mon Dec 05, 2011 3:39 am

Well things got worse again... I think I lost her for good this time. But I think I can accept it. I just hope that one day when shes older, she will remember me and maybe try to contact her. I know that I'll always be looking her up on the internet to see if she made it as a band member. And I will do whatever I can to be at one of her concerts. I'm still hanging on though. I'll wait till her new best friend moves. She said she won't be here mentally anymore when she moves. But I'll take her back. Sadly, this is after her birthday. I'll still get her things like It's still normal. But I won't be visiting her as often. My parents are going to get into my buissiness saying "Oh Kana why aren't you playing with your only friend? Is everything ok?" I hope they don't, I'll just start crying. I have a new friend though. I'm glad she's a little weird. But she lives far. Maybe I can try being friends with this other girl, I don't know though. I'm messed up right now. But she calls me sometimes. I'll visit my friend like... Sigh I don't know what do you guys think? Her friend lives far too. And she needs love. I thought she was going to be a Moonchild too which I think would make things better but next thing I know she tells me that Kerli's head is weird and I'm too good to be bubblegoth. But I'm trying to accept that she wants to leave me. But once she has no one, I'll come back.

I read this over a couple times and realized it's very confusing so I added colours. ._.
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Post by Krissy on Mon Dec 05, 2011 6:13 am

I think sometimes people just grow a part. It's normal and a part of life.I think its best to try and make new friends.

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Post by OwO_V on Tue Dec 06, 2011 1:10 am

Yeah, I'm glad I got over her though. I feel like a burden got off my back. I feel light. But I'm still concerned for her. She was the only friend I really cared for, I think It's because I never had a friend that was like her. But I know it's for the best. I loved her so much that she was all I could think of. I starting loving her more than I should and realized I was bi. Which I think I am. What disturbs me though is that I saw a post from her friend saying she had hickies all over after they had a 3 day sleepover. I'm fine with bi people. But it disturbed me because I loved her so much. It's still on my mind today but I could be overreacting and it could just be one of their sick inside jokes.
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Post by Krissy on Tue Dec 06, 2011 6:10 am

Ya.It's good you have moved on.

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Post by OwO_V on Tue Dec 06, 2011 6:28 am

I'm really glad I did now. Plus it'll all be just a memory once I'm older. But I learned alot from it. Thank you ^w^
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Post by Krissy on Tue Dec 06, 2011 6:40 am

In life you will meet a lot of people.Some stay for life.some don't.Maybe some just come for a short period of time to teach us something.The true ones last for ever,

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Post by OwO_V on Tue Dec 13, 2011 3:23 am

Well I've been having a strong urge to go to her house and visit, I told myself to visit her occasionally. But I'm afraid to. What do you think? I want to go to her house and hug her for a long time. But I haven't talked to her in a week. I just want to be friends at home. Not school friends. She's the only one I really know that lives near me. And my parents are bugging me wondering why I'm not hanging out with her anymore. Should I just visit her like, once a week? Not the weekends. She had a sleepover with her friend the past two weeks... I have to visit her. I have to. I don't know why.
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Post by OwO_V on Tue Dec 13, 2011 3:27 am

I can get over her if she moves or I do. There's like, a thin string still attached to us. I keep dreaming about her too. I can't stop it's so painful. I have to visit her. But I don't know what to do with her. Should I make a excuse saying that I wanted to see her before I travel for the holidays? And maybe hang out somewhere outside? When she's like this she likes getting away from home.
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Post by Krissy on Tue Dec 13, 2011 8:29 am

Maybe you to need to chat about where you stand.& from theire then you descide if moving on is what you do.

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Post by OwO_V on Tue Dec 13, 2011 1:02 pm

Hmm, maybe... I don't know. Im not sure though. She just told me to fuck off, I think I was being too clingy. Her friend makes our relationship worse though... I'll try. I don't have alot of friends and I need to keep her cause she's the only one I got near home.
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Post by Krissy on Tue Dec 13, 2011 2:09 pm

She doesn't seem very nice to you.Maybe it's best to let her go.Find a new friend.

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Post by OwO_V on Wed Dec 14, 2011 1:25 pm

She is usually nice to me when we are together, just us. But when there's someone else then she's mean. Yesterday her friend wasn't there for lunch and she came to me. In a way I think she misses me. We laughed and caught up. It felt so right. We were using our inside jokes and did what we uslually do naturally together. I think I was just with her too much before. I need to know to not hang around her like fish poop. lol.
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Post by Krissy on Wed Dec 14, 2011 1:37 pm

Doesn't sound much like a friend.I had a friend like that.She acted different when other friends were over..hated that.

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